Confession time: I’ve been dealing with some serious writer’s block lately. I’ve tried the normal techniques for overcoming writer’s block, but the depth of this issue goes back six months to a truly heartbreaking event that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I’ve been too scared to share it with the world, embarrassed at times at the thought that it happened to me, and have chosen to only share it with a select few. Today that changes. I am facing my fears and choosing to share my story in hopes to remain fully open about who I am and the person behind this blog. After all, I always promise authenticity in everything that I write. The only way I know how to face this fear is head on, so today I am sharing a personal post about what I’ve been struggling with over the past six months.
To begin, I go back to February when everything in my life seemed normal. I had a wonderful job teaching Kindergarten at an amazing school that I had worked at for ten years, a growing blog I was passionate about with the plan to take it over full time in the fall, and a husband who supported my blog in every aspect, including the photography that got it off the ground. It was the day before Valentine’s Day when the unthinkable happened. My husband of two and a half years (and love for seven years) left me suddenly and filed for divorce. I felt blindsided and crushed to the core. No one gets married with the intent of getting divorced and I was left with so many questions and a heart shattered in a million pieces. How was I supposed to keep teaching, writing, and posing for pictures with a smile on my face when everything on the inside wanted to break down and give up?
I had battled with anxiety for years before this event, but it wasn’t until the pressure lead me into a series of panic attacks and chronic anxiety. I quickly relied on the strength of God and my friends and family to support me through the toughest thing I have ever dealt with — something that seemed too overwhelming to handle on my own. Attempting to keep teaching with the best of my ability, and continue to keep my thriving business alive, I learned quickly how to pick myself back up and keep pursuing the goals I set out for myself. Despite the anxiety, the panic attacks, and occasional feelings of depression I am learning better each day how to cope with the amounts of stress that compound and try to overtake my life.
Over the past six months, I have learned so much about what truly matters most and how to deal with trials. As time goes on, and my heart heals, I am finding myself more than ever and that makes me happy. I’ve learned how to improve relationships in all aspects of my life and never take anyone for granted. I’ve made the decision to work for myself and blog full time and fearlessly do what so many people think is not possible. I still have tough days and struggle with other trials, but the continued love and support I get from my friends, family, and you as dedicated readers help me to press on stronger than ever before. Remember, beauty can always be found in the darkest of circumstances.
You may not deal with an anxiety disorder, but there are times in life we have all felt overwhelmed by inevitable struggles. For those of you dealing with trials, I’ve fearlessly chosen to share my story today, in hopes to inspire you, encourage you, and remind you everything is going to be OK despite what comes your way. Trials don’t last forever. It’s how we deal with the difficulties when they face us that matters most.
4 Ways to Fearlessly Deal with Trials
Remind yourself of your value.
Thankfully I had friends and family to get me through the tough times and reminded me the woman that I am. The smart, capable, and confident woman that I know I am, but often don’t feel like. Those people and those words that carried me through tough days, I will never forget. However, while those people will always be good friends and be there for you, they cannot be the source of your strength. It is something that you have to find within and remind yourself of your value. I began doing daily affirmations before I started each day and telling myself that I can get through it, no matter what comes my way. I reminded myself of my worth. Read some affirmations I wrote for you in this post about dressing with confidence.
Anxiety is one of those things that can make or break you. It can overtake all your thoughts and lead you to a place of feeling completely overwhelmed or it can drive you to a place of strength you never knew. Productivity can be killed in an instant or can be cultivated in ways that make you work harder than ever. When those overwhelming thoughts come your way, take them captive and begin to prioritize. Even if it’s just a small task or goal for the day, the best you can do is keep pressing on, one moment at a time. Don’t feel like you have to do it all alone or all at once. Prioritize your goals and start from the beginning to accomplish them.
Do what makes you happy.
There is nothing more exciting than seeing someone who is in constant pursuit of their dreams. Unfortunately, tough days can come and attempt to destroy that happiness. My friends, I’m here to tell you do not let anything or anyone steal your joy! Keep finding yourself and doing what you love with a smile, despite the trials and imperfections of life.
Never give up.
There is always something to look forward to and be grateful for. Giving up is not an option, especially when you have so much to look forward to in life! Take it one day at a time and remember why you are doing what you do. That motivation will help keep you focused to fearlessly face the challenges that come your way. For more inspiration, read 6 Things to Try When You Feel Like Giving Up I wrote back when I was needing the encouragement the most.
If you know someone who battles with anxiety don’t be afraid to reach out to them and encourage them when you see them going through a tough time. Here are some things you can tell them:
You’ve got this.
You are going to be OK.
I am here to support you.
You are not alone.
We are all in this together and I am here for you, my friends, whenever you need a word of encouragement or a virtual hug. Please never hesitate to message or e-mail me when you need some extra support. We need each other to get through this together. Tough times are bound to happen, but things will always get better.
I am beyond thankful for the friends who have helped support me through this difficult time. You know who you are. Thank you for everything. And thank you for letting me share my story.
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