Why It Shouldn’t Matter What Others Think of You

You all know I love to write about fashion, but sometimes there are greater things on my heart. I love to combine fashion with my passion for personal growth so today I’m changing things up a bit and sharing my thoughts to a question that’s been looming over my mind: Why do we spend so much time worrying about what others think about us? It shouldn’t matter. That’s not to say we shouldn’t consider the feelings of others, because I strongly believe that empathy and kindness are two things this world needs more of. We need more people who are aware of how others feel and respond accordingly with compassion and understanding. However, we also need people to be themselves.

Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels |

Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels | For so long I lived my life concerned by what others thought of me. I would make calculated moves that even though they were still my own actions, the motivation behind it wasn’t purely for myself. I realized how unhealthy it was to function off of how others feel about you. In fact, it only led to worry and anxiety! I’m only speaking the truth of what I’ve learned that this worry leads to in hopes that it helps you avoid similar situations.

Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels |
Here are three things that worrying about what others think of you will do for you:

  1. Worrying is a time-waster and energy drainer.

    I cannot think of one time in my life where worrying was productive to what I wanted to achieve. In fact, I have found it to have the opposite effect. When we spend time dwelling on negative thoughts, the outcome is counterproductive and ends up filling your time with a mindset that will not help you throughout your day. Recognizing that worry is impractical and can actually negatively impact your day, is the first step to finding the motivation necessary to focus on yourself.

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  2. Worrying leads to self-destructive thoughts.

    Whenever I catch myself worrying about what someone thinks of me, I ask myself, “Why do I feel the need to worry about their opinion of me?” Generally, I’ve found it stems from some form of insecurity and as a result causes me to dwell in self-destructive thoughts. In humility, I will admit that yes, I do have insecurities too. We all do. I recognize however that no amount of approval from others will ever make me feel complete. If you’re looking for others to fulfill an internal need, you are looking in the wrong place.

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  3. Worrying leaves you feeling disempowered.

    I have found that if I am fully happy and content with who I am, then I should have confidence that others will love me the way I am. I want others to accept me 100% of the time, and not the part of me that is influenced how others perceive me. By accepting who you are completely and being content with yourself, you will be fulfilled to the point where you no longer have that need to worry about the opinion of others. You deserve to be around someone who accepts you for who you are. I know you will feel so much more empowered when you function in an authentic way all the time and surround yourself with people who love and appreciate that.

    Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels |
    Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels |

Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels |

If I were to conclude with anything, it’s to reiterate how important it is to be yourself all the time. Don’t live off the expectations of others. Do what you want because it fulfills you and makes you happy. You will be so much more satisfied with who you are and content in your relationships when you stop worrying what others think about you! 

Boho Chic | Blue and White | Off The Shoulder Top | Bohemian Vibes | Striped Clutch | Caged Heels |I hope this post inspired you not only with a fun outfit to boho-chic outfit to influence your wardrobe, but also with some positive thinking to inspire your heart!

Keep smiling!

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I’m Molly! I live in Seattle and am an optimist, adventurer, and bold lipstick wearer. I created this space to inspire and empower women with words of encouragement known as #MollysWords and share inspiration through my personal style. I always want my readers to leave with a smile and I hope you do!

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19 Comments

  1. Avatar June 23, 2016 / 6:24 pm

    Love this post!! So true and I can relate so much. Worrying myself to the point of physical sickness over whether people liked me or if I was what people wanted to be friends with. Now I do things for me and my loved ones. And I don’t have to feel like I need to try to be liked by everyone. If you have to force it then it’s not worth it. This post is just wonderful.
    Keep doing what you’re doing. 🙂

    Xoxo
    Ellie

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:38 pm

      My love you are so right! Worry has caused me to be physically sick as well, but we need to do these for ourselves and those that mean the most to us. Thanks for the encouragement!

  2. Avatar June 24, 2016 / 7:48 am

    It’s refreshing to know that even beautiful successful people like yourself have insecurities! Loved your tips for pushing through!
    Xo

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:38 pm

      Aww thanks girl. Yes, we all have them! Love you!

  3. Avatar June 24, 2016 / 7:20 pm

    I love boho things!
    And yes, we simply can’t worry what others think!

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:38 pm

      Thanks! You’re so right! So good for our emotional health to remain strong and focused on what’s important to us!

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    Casey
    June 25, 2016 / 6:57 am

    Love that outfit and this entire post! Thank you for words of wisdom and encouragement:)

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:39 pm

      Thank you for the encouragement Casey! So glad you liked it!

  5. Avatar June 25, 2016 / 8:02 am

    I love how you format your fashion posts. I do a similar thing sometimes because fashion is a passion but life goes so much deeper. And this post! I think worry should be added to that statement “comparison is the thief of joy”. It’s such a hard habit to break. I try to daily pray up potential worries that might be ahead in my day so I can give them up before they start. It’s a work in progress. Those shoes are everything btw😘

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:40 pm

      Angie! This means SO much to me. I’m really thankful for people like you who appreciate the deeper things in life as well. Love that quote! I’ve used it before and live by it! Thank you!

  6. Avatar June 25, 2016 / 4:16 pm

    Thanks for sharing what has been on your mind. 😉 I love your outfit…so breezy for summer!

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:40 pm

      Aww you’re welcome! So glad you enjoyed it!

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    Shanna Johnson
    June 25, 2016 / 5:06 pm

    I so agree with you about this topic, and yet, like most people, I constantly find myself wondering and worrying about what others think of me. I will say that, thankfully, as I’ve gotten older this need for others approval has gotten smaller, but it’s still there. I just have to remind myself that I need to come first, and making myself happy will, in turn, make those who care about me happy. You have to love and care for yourself to be truly happy with your life and all the things in it.
    Oh, and this outfit is so pretty! And those shoes? OMG! I want them so bad!
    http://www.flipflopshanna.com

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:41 pm

      Isn’t it funny how we know what we SHOULD do and yet our natural tendencies are still to worry and compare at times? It’s wonderful to have friends who lift us up and encourage us! PS I want these shoes in EVERY color! haha!

  8. Avatar June 26, 2016 / 6:47 pm

    I LOVE this outfit (that Stella and Dot clutch is on my list as a must have, I bought it for my sister for christmas and am totally jealous)

    I definitely struggle with #3, worrying leading to dis empowerment. This is something I constantly work to overcome… I’m a natural worrier

    • Molly Clifton June 27, 2016 / 4:42 pm

      Laura, I can’t believe what I ever did without this clutch?! There’s so many options to style it with! I think a lot of us naturally worry, but that’s where we have friends to lift us up! You are awesome just the way you are my dear!

  9. Avatar June 28, 2016 / 4:53 am

    Boho look amazing on you! You’re rocking in, and I love this positive message.

    • Molly | Style Miss Molly July 6, 2016 / 3:34 pm

      Chelsea, thank you! I don’t wear the boho look a lot. I think you pull it off SO well so that means os much to me!

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