You all know I love to write about fashion, but sometimes there are greater things on my heart. I love to combine fashion with my passion for personal growth so today I’m changing things up a bit and sharing my thoughts to a question that’s been looming over my mind: Why do we spend so much time worrying about what others think about us? It shouldn’t matter. That’s not to say we shouldn’t consider the feelings of others, because I strongly believe that empathy and kindness are two things this world needs more of. We need more people who are aware of how others feel and respond accordingly with compassion and understanding. However, we also need people to be themselves.
For so long I lived my life concerned by what others thought of me. I would make calculated moves that even though they were still my own actions, the motivation behind it wasn’t purely for myself. I realized how unhealthy it was to function off of how others feel about you. In fact, it only led to worry and anxiety! I’m only speaking the truth of what I’ve learned that this worry leads to in hopes that it helps you avoid similar situations.
Worrying is a time-waster and energy drainer.
I cannot think of one time in my life where worrying was productive to what I wanted to achieve. In fact, I have found it to have the opposite effect. When we spend time dwelling on negative thoughts, the outcome is counterproductive and ends up filling your time with a mindset that will not help you throughout your day. Recognizing that worry is impractical and can actually negatively impact your day, is the first step to finding the motivation necessary to focus on yourself.
Worrying leads to self-destructive thoughts.
Whenever I catch myself worrying about what someone thinks of me, I ask myself, “Why do I feel the need to worry about their opinion of me?” Generally, I’ve found it stems from some form of insecurity and as a result causes me to dwell in self-destructive thoughts. In humility, I will admit that yes, I do have insecurities too. We all do. I recognize however that no amount of approval from others will ever make me feel complete. If you’re looking for others to fulfill an internal need, you are looking in the wrong place.
Worrying leaves you feeling disempowered.
I have found that if I am fully happy and content with who I am, then I should have confidence that others will love me the way I am. I want others to accept me 100% of the time, and not the part of me that is influenced how others perceive me. By accepting who you are completely and being content with yourself, you will be fulfilled to the point where you no longer have that need to worry about the opinion of others. You deserve to be around someone who accepts you for who you are. I know you will feel so much more empowered when you function in an authentic way all the time and surround yourself with people who love and appreciate that.
If I were to conclude with anything, it’s to reiterate how important it is to be yourself all the time. Don’t live off the expectations of others. Do what you want because it fulfills you and makes you happy. You will be so much more satisfied with who you are and content in your relationships when you stop worrying what others think about you!
I hope this post inspired you not only with a fun outfit to boho-chic outfit to influence your wardrobe, but also with some positive thinking to inspire your heart!
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