I just spent the last twenty minutes literally staring at my computer screen. You know that post I recently wrote on tips for staying motivated when you lack it? Yeah, that would be me right now needing to read it. Again. In my moments of feeling down and mostly out of it because of a flu bug I caught this week, I managed to pick up my phone. You may have guessed I was browsing Instagram. I saw a post from the beautiful Inspiration Indulgence, who in between her moments of always inspiring and lifting up her readers also feels like she has been “stuck.” I applaud her for being so real and open with her followers and have major respect for her doing what’s not always comfortable. It brought to mind something that even I find it hard to admit — it’s OK to not be OK all the time.
All too often people find themselves in a situation of masking their pain. Society tells us to tough it up and just let go of whatever is bothering you. Easier said than done, am I right?! I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to not be okay all the time. You have every right to feel whatever it is that you’re feeling. You are allowed to (and in fact, I encourage it) let go of your desire to be perfect all the time. Ignore anyone who says just “tough it up” and just be you.
You are human.
In case you didn’t know, you are a human. This means you live, breathe, think, and feel. You have basic human needs and many of those needs are on an emotional level. So don’t begin by dismissing them or trying to get rid of them. Accept what you feel as OK (even if you don’t like it) and take a moment to breathe. It’s how you handle those feelings that matters most, and you’ll need the breath to give yourself a little break before handling life’s little battles.
It’s OK to cry.
Sometimes crying makes no sense at all, and even when it does there is a powerful emotional release that can come from it. When I was going through some tough things in my life I attempted to avoid crying. I hated crying and felt ashamed for doing it. I’ve never been much of a crier anyway. I would tell myself to just get over it, but all I was really doing was bottling up the pain. If you need to, allow yourself to cry and have that release that comes from allowing yourself to feel.
Your emotions are valid.
Never let anyone tell you that your emotions are not valid for any reason. You feel for a reason and those feelings make you a part of who you are. Feelings are not something you need to be afraid of. In fact, they are a beautiful thing and show how much you truly care. View those feelings as the very thing that makes your soul unique and amazing. You will begin to appreciate them so much more when you learn to see them as a positive.
Tough things happen.
My dear, life is full of ups and downs. If you’re in one of those ups right now then I encourage you to spread some goodness around anywhere you can. The world could always use a little more kindness and cheerful spirits anyway! But if you’re feeling down or just in one of the “feeling stuck” moods, I’m here to say you’re not alone. The truth is bad things happens to all of us. No bad season lasts forever so keep your head held high!
No one has a perfect life.
If bad things happened to everyone all at once then I’m pretty sure the world would explode! But that’s not reality. The truth is those things we call “bad” can happen at the same time we are looking around wondering why it’s not happening to everyone else. Do yourself a favor and quit comparing your life to the picture perfect life of someone else’s. Playing the comparison game will only steal your joy. And when all else fails, remember, “Life can be tough my darling, but so are you.”
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