Today I’m breaking all the rumors, answering questions, addressing concerns, and overall just thanking you all for the love that you’ve given me during this quiet time I’ve taken on social media. Your comments and messages of support have meant the world to me as I’ve focused on self-care and have given me encouragement on my toughest days. As a way of saying thank you, here’s a little life and business update answering four of the questions I’ve received the most lately.
Questions from my readers:
1. Why did you take a break from blogging?
I’ve given bits and pieces of this on social media and my blog. Overall, it was time I made self-care and health a priority. I always promise to be real and straightforward with you all, and I’m choosing to embrace vulnerability by telling you this. Over the course of a year, I’ve been hospitalized three times for a variety of health reasons. Stress is likely the catalyst for this, and now they’re 99.9% sure I have endometriosis among other things (side note: if you know anything about this please reach out to me – the pain is unbearable at times).
Social media has an amazing way of bringing so many blessings and wonderful opportunities into our lives, but there is a side to it that not many people address — the pressure, the comparison game, the stress and anxiety, the keep going mentality, the constant desire to be perfect, and always feeling a need to be plugged-in.
I recently read an article that says that millennials struggle with perfectionism more. I’m not surprised.
“According to a new study released in the journal Psychological Bulletin, millennials are more likely than previous generations to put pressure on ourselves — and others — to be perfect, possibly to the detriment of our mental health.”
My personality type is a classic perfectionist. I have the drive to never stop even when it’s tough, but I was ignoring the signs when my body was saying “slow down”. And guess what? I ignored them until the inevitable happened. This past year led to a snowball effect of health concerns that needed to be addressed, so I took time off to recover. Our bodies are remarkable, and if we listen to them they tell you exactly what you need. When to take time for yourself, what feelings you need to address or accept, what goals to set, what kind of exercise you need, or even what foods to eat.
The more I started to listen to my body the more I realized that social media was something that I needed to cut out until I was ready. I needed to forget about being perfect.
2. How are you doing?
Of all the messages I received from women who asked this simple question, I want to say THANK YOU. Thank you for thinking of me. Thank you for caring enough to reach out. The encouragement you gave me still replays in my mind and gives me hope to persevere through the struggles.
I’m feeling rejuvenated, inspired and motivated.
As I step back into this role of being active in my community, I do so with passion and heart to be 100% myself. That means if I need a day of self-care to not post to Instagram, I am OK with that. Thank you for understanding that self-care should always be our number one priority.
3. What are you working on right now?
1. Website Refresh
Did you notice? I hope so! I’ve done a major website redesign. Fashion, travel, self-care topics, and empowerment for other creative women go-getters will be the focus of my blog. As I refocus my goals for Style Miss Molly, I’m working more on creating this space to be an uplifting community where we can encourage each other. I’m following my passion for helping women achieve their goals, and I couldn’t be more excited about the direction I’m heading. Thank you for being a part of it!
2. Writing a Book
One of the most exciting side projects I’ve been working on for a while which I told you about on Instagram is that I’m writing a book! I’m nervous and excited about finally accomplishing this dream I’ve had forever. My book is about empowering other women to let go of their perfections, face their fears and reclaim their power to pursue their dreams fearlessly. It’s basically my #MollysWords encouraging words hashtag which you follow on Instagram or read on my website wrapped up into one inspiring book.
3. Speaking Opportunities
I want to bring #MollysWords of encouragement to life and share more of my heart on video or a podcast. I’d love to hear your thoughts or interest on this so please write in the comments what you’d love to see and hear on video or take this quick survey. I’ve had more speaking opportunities lately in Seattle, and I am thrilled to step outside of my comfort zone and connect with others in a whole different way.
3. Mentorship Program
Being able to help women is a huge part of my heart, which is why I’m excited to expand on that passion through a mentorship program I am creating. If you want first access to when that launches or want to share your ideas with me about what you’d like that program to look like feel free to share it all in this survey.
4. What are your goals for your blog?
I believe that when God gives you an incredible platform to bring hope into this world where so many people need it, you use it. The main goal of my blog is empowering women by connecting with my readers (that’s you), and together share the raw and vulnerable experiences we each face.
I created #MollysWords to inspire others one word at a time. I hope my story helps you and I hope it inspires you to share yours too.
Take a look at the updated About Me page on my blog which now reflects my passion for reaching the hearts of women who may struggle in the same way. I’ll be adding a Q&A, so if you have any questions for me, send them my way!
As I turn 28, I remind myself this is the year to forget about being perfect. As something I’ve struggled with my whole life, I know that I am constantly learning and growing. You are not alone in this.
How to avoid getting caught in the perfectionist trap:
- Limit your time on social media: Remember unplugging regularly is a necessity for your health.
- Listen to your body: Take a step back when needed.
- Practice self-care: Focus on your physical and mental wellbeing.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others: Don’t let comparison make you lose sight of your own path.
- Be kind to yourself: Remember your worth!
This is the year to forget about being perfect. I hope you join me in letting go of perfectionism and embracing the beauty in your imperfections!
I’m so happy to see your smiling face again. I have checked your Instagram from time to time and you were quiet. I respect that and I want you to know I’m thrilled you are back and feeling good. You are my favorite blog/instagram person. You are gorgeous and I know wonderful things are on the way.
Oh my goodness!! Thank you for being SO sweet and supportive! You have no idea how much your kind words mean to me. I am beyond grateful for your love and encouragement!
I can completely relate with this. I also let my perfectionism push me and ignored my body until it was too late. Now I have stress-related health issues I’ll have to keep dealing with. If sharing our stories can help even one person back off before they do serious damage, it’ll be worth it.
So glad to hear that you’re feeling better, and good luck with the book!
Casey I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve gone through similar struggles with health-related issues. The way we put so much pressure on ourselves is exhausting and definitely not worth sacrificing our self-care. I am with you and ALL for sharing our stories with each other so others don’t have to go through the same. It will be worth it! Thanks for sharing your story. <3
Loving how your new website is looking!!! AWESOME JOB! Now I want to switch my website to WordPress! haha
As always, love your writing – so inspiring and so encouraging and I so can’t wait to read your book, babe!!!!
I can’t agree with you more about unplugging and stepping back when the body needs.
Last weekend, I completely had lazy days, just doing Japanese dramas and Avengers movie marathon in a PJ and holy cow I LOVED IT!
I felt I should have not taking a break for two days in a row, but at the same time, I felt very happy that I listened to my body and absolutely recharged myself fully by doing so!
Thank you babe! I’m so glad you love the new look of my site and appreciate your compliments on my writing. You are SOO sweet! You are such an inspiration and I admire your heart and creativity! And good for you for taking a step back! It can be hard at times, but it is SO necessary! You are worth it!
I am so happy to see you happy. Even though I didn’t write you or anything I really thought that you just needed some time off of social media. Your health should be always a priority. Glad that you are feeling better and glad that you are back!
Lots of love,
I think that is SO sweet that you thought of me and were giving me space for a break. I feel like I have gained so much clarity on this situation that I truly know where my priorities should be. Thank you for always being so thoughtful and supportive. I appreciate you!
So sweet! This post definitely is a great reminder for yourself as well! Hope to get to meet you in person one day!
Thank you, An! It would be wonderful to meet you in person someday soon!
Love love LOVE this Molly! So proud of you for taking that time for you to heal and focus on self care! As a fellow perfectionist with health issues, I relate to this so much. You are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your heart so openly. Xo
Thank you, Bri for understanding and giving me such sweet encouragement! We are in this together and can DO this together!
I am so happy to see you back! I’ve missed your positivity and smiling face on my Instagram for a while now and I’m glad that you’re feeling so rejuvenated. I am LOVING the website redesign and I cannot wait to read that book! I’m so sorry to hear about the diagnosis, I know how tough endometriosis can be as I have a good Friend who suffers with it and she has talked about it with me. Hope things get better and you feel better soon in that area. I can certainly relate to the perfectionist feelings, I’ve started blogging less because I don’t feel like my content is good enough and I don’t want it to be “filler” content but keeping on writing and getting things down helps me to keep it up or I’m afraid I’ll quit it completely. We’re all glad you’re back. Here’s to things feeling better and great things to come for your blog, book and life in general.
Ellie | http://www.scotchandstilettos.com
Ellie I am so grateful to have met you in the blogging world! I hope that you continue to blog and do what feels right in your heart! Definitely agree with not delivering content that is filler content and always producing your best! Thanks for encouraging me through this! You’re so sweet.