Confidence; in its most basic of elements is a combined feeling of trust, belief and certainty. And for 99.9% of humanity, confidence isn’t something that comes naturally. Fortunately, it is something we all have the capacity to gain with the right tools. In whatever area of life you seek that confidence — love, sports, school, work, passions or finances — the tools are fundamentally the same. Today I’m partnering with Capital One to share my fool-proof tools for gaining confidence so that you’re prepared for anything life throws at you!
Look to your future and define what you want and who you want to be.
By defining a goal, it becomes more achievable. Dream big, or dream small, but just begin by dreaming about where you want to be. And as in basketball, archery, and golf, you are more likely to achieve your goal if you have a defined target in mind before you begin.
Set up milestones to measure your progress.
When you set up these “mini-goals”, you are setting up many successes. These small successes can keep you motivated and on the path to achieve larger goals. These are critically important and I’ve noticed that I being to gain my confidence at this stage when I achieve them.
Acknowledge your shortcomings but don’t allow yourself to get down because of them.
We all have those “palm-to-the-forehead” moments throughout life. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be human. Sometimes mine happen with a white knit sweater and a cup of chai tea at a local Seattle coffee shop, sometimes they come in the form of conversations gone wrong or even, gulp! financial missteps. But just because we made an error – or twelve, does not mean they are not correctable. So, keep your chin up and know that with every misstep we make, we have been given another opportunity to learn while correcting them.
Reward yourself responsibly when you hit every milestone.
You know that good feeling you get when you’ve done something really nice for someone and they acknowledge it? Well in this case, you ARE that someone. So, don’t deny yourself the same feelings of accomplishment just because you’re doing something for yourself and not someone else. It’s not only fair but appropriate to give yourself kudos and it will help you stay motivated to keep on track and gain confidence.
Repeat positive behavior.
You’ll find that achieving goals will become easier when you set up systems and processes to create patterns of behavior to make it easier to replicate.
When you have one goal in place, and implement your systems and processes to achieve it, you’ll be able to dream bigger and achieve more in the future.
Don’t forget that what you think about controls you. Confidence is a mindset, as is defeat and the more we reinforce one with the tools we have, the more we become it so just remember, the tools above are life building tools and are not limited to only one aspect of life.
Put the tools into practice.
What better way to put the tools into practice than by gaining confidence with your money?
I sure was able to put it into practice recently with my goal of gaining financial confidence. When Capital One stopped in to Seattle with their Banking Reimagined Tour to showcase their new Capital One Cafes coming soon, my boyfriend and I popped in to check it out. It was such a fun experience as I engaged with their interactive tour, and it was my first time using augmented reality glasses — pretty crazy! But something else I noticed was how they are changing the way banking is done and I realized that money doesn’t have to be a cause of stress when you plan ahead and visualize a reality that excites you. Imagine that – using technology to excite my passions and help determine where I want to go with my future.
I don’t know anyone who’s thought of a bank as a place to hang out but my mind is quickly being changed because of the Capital One Cafe — can you say mmmm Peet’s coffee and goodbye formal bank branch?! I am constantly blogging in cozy cafes all around Seattle, and with one of their cafes opening very soon in South Lake Union I will have a new spot to hang out. With dream goals of traveling the world and a free money coach to help keep me on track, I will have a new place to work and stay inspired so that I can travel the world with confidence and smiles!
How about you? What’s the one area in your life you wish you had more confidence?
*This post was sponsored by Capital One, but all opinions in this blog post are my own. I have had an account with Capital One for years and appreciate their dedication to their customers. If you’d like to learn more about Capital One Cafes and to see if there’s one near you, please visit their website. To have a fun experience like I did at their Banking Reimagined tour you can go here and see if one will be coming to your city. Thank you so much for helping support sponsors who help support me!