4 Ways to Fearlessly Deal with Trials

Confession time: I’ve been dealing with some serious writer’s block lately. I’ve tried the normal techniques for overcoming writer’s block, but the depth of this issue goes back six months to a truly heartbreaking event that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I’ve been too scared to share it with the world, embarrassed at times at the thought that it happened to me, and have chosen to only share it with a select few. Today that changes. I am facing my fears and choosing to share my story in hopes to remain fully open about who I am and the person behind this blog. After all, I always promise authenticity in everything that I write. The only way I know how to face this fear is head on, so today I am sharing a personal post about what I’ve been struggling with over the past six months.
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How To Fearlessly Deal with Trials | Distressed Jeans | HERboutique.comTo begin, I go back to February when everything in my life seemed normal. I had a wonderful job teaching Kindergarten at an amazing school that I had worked at for ten years, a growing blog I was passionate about with the plan to take it over full time in the fall, and a husband who supported my blog in every aspect, including the photography that got it off the ground. It was the day before Valentine’s Day when the unthinkable happened. My husband of two and a half years (and love for seven years) left me suddenly and filed for divorce. I felt blindsided and crushed to the core. No one gets married with the intent of getting divorced and I was left with so many questions and a heart shattered in a million pieces. How was I supposed to keep teaching, writing, and posing for pictures with a smile on my face when everything on the inside wanted to break down and give up?

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I had battled with anxiety for years before this event, but it wasn’t until the pressure lead me into a series of panic attacks and chronic anxiety. I quickly relied on the strength of God and my friends and family to support me through the toughest thing I have ever dealt with — something that seemed too overwhelming to handle on my own. Attempting to keep teaching with the best of my ability, and continue to keep my thriving business alive, I learned quickly how to pick myself back up and keep pursuing the goals I set out for myself. Despite the anxiety, the panic attacks, and occasional feelings of depression I am learning better each day how to cope with the amounts of stress that compound and try to overtake my life.
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Over the past six months, I have learned so much about what truly matters most and how to deal with trials. As time goes on, and my heart heals, I am finding myself more than ever and that makes me happy. I’ve learned how to improve relationships in all aspects of my life and never take anyone for granted. I’ve made the decision to work for myself and blog full time and fearlessly do what so many people think is not possible. I still have tough days and struggle with other trials, but the continued love and support I get from my friends, family, and you as dedicated readers help me to press on stronger than ever before. Remember, beauty can always be found in the darkest of circumstances.

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You may not deal with an anxiety disorder, but there are times in life we have all felt overwhelmed by inevitable struggles. For those of you dealing with trials, I’ve fearlessly chosen to share my story today, in hopes to inspire you, encourage you, and remind you everything is going to be OK despite what comes your way. Trials don’t last forever. It’s how we deal with the difficulties when they face us that matters most.

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4 Ways to Fearlessly Deal with Trials
  1. Remind yourself of your value.

    Thankfully I had friends and family to get me through the tough times and reminded me the woman that I am.  The smart, capable, and confident woman that I know I am, but often don’t feel like. Those people and those words that carried me through tough days, I will never forget. However, while those people will always be good friends and be there for you, they cannot be the source of your strength. It is something that you have to find within and remind yourself of your value. I began doing daily affirmations before I started each day and telling myself that I can get through it, no matter what comes my way. I reminded myself of my worth. Read some affirmations I wrote for you in this post about dressing with confidence.
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  2. Prioritize.

    Anxiety is one of those things that can make or break you. It can overtake all your thoughts and lead you to a place of feeling completely overwhelmed or it can drive you to a place of strength you never knew. Productivity can be killed in an instant or can be cultivated in ways that make you work harder than ever. When those overwhelming thoughts come your way, take them captive and begin to prioritize. Even if it’s just a small task or goal for the day, the best you can do is keep pressing on, one moment at a time. Don’t feel like you have to do it all alone or all at once. Prioritize your goals and start from the beginning to accomplish them.

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  3. Do what makes you happy.

    There is nothing more exciting than seeing someone who is in constant pursuit of their dreams. Unfortunately, tough days can come and attempt to destroy that happiness. My friends, I’m here to tell you do not let anything or anyone steal your joy! Keep finding yourself and doing what you love with a smile, despite the trials and imperfections of life.

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  4. Never give up.

    There is always something to look forward to and be grateful for. Giving up is not an option, especially when you have so much to look forward to in life! Take it one day at a time and remember why you are doing what you do. That motivation will help keep you focused to fearlessly face the challenges that come your way. For more inspiration, read 6 Things to Try When You Feel Like Giving Up I wrote back when I was needing the encouragement the most.

If you know someone who battles with anxiety don’t be afraid to reach out to them and encourage them when you see them going through a tough time. Here are some things you can tell them:

You’ve got this. 

You are going to be OK. 

I am here to support you. 

You are not alone. 

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We are all in this together and I am here for you, my friends, whenever you need a word of encouragement or a virtual hug. Please never hesitate to message or e-mail me when you need some extra support. We need each other to get through this together. Tough times are bound to happen, but things will always get better.

I am beyond thankful for the friends who have helped support me through this difficult time. You know who you are. Thank you for everything. And thank you for letting me share my story.

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Keep smiling!

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I’m Molly! I live in Seattle and am an optimist, adventurer, and bold lipstick wearer. I created this space to inspire and empower women with words of encouragement known as #MollysWords and share inspiration through my personal style. I always want my readers to leave with a smile and I hope you do!

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  1. August 25, 2016 / 6:52 pm

    Omg Molly! I can’t believe that happened and I’m so sorry. I’m also really proud of you for coming out on the other side stronger and aiming to help others going through a tough time. Stay strong girly! You are definitely inspiring and motivating women and girls everywhere (:

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:18 pm

      Amanda, thank you for your kind words. Yes, I definitely do believe I have and will come out stronger on the other side. Thanks for encouraging me to keep doing what I do! Hugs!

  2. Lindsey
    August 25, 2016 / 6:54 pm

    Oh Molly, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been having such tough times, but you are shining brighter than ever! You are such an inspiration!!

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:18 pm

      Lindsey, thank you for being such a sweet friend. I really appreciate the kindness you have shown and continue to show me. You are such a dear friend!

  3. August 25, 2016 / 6:55 pm

    I love you forever and am so so so SO proud of you for sharing this with the world. You are destined to inspire the masses. Here for you always.

    Coming Up Roses

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:19 pm

      Thank you Erica for encouraging me to share my story. It means so much having your support and knowing you’re here for me always. Love you girl!

  4. August 25, 2016 / 7:46 pm

    I’m so sorry you’ve been going through this but good for you for sharing your story. Keep being your adorable self!!!

  5. Samantha Weissbach
    August 25, 2016 / 8:15 pm

    I’m so proud of you–it is so brave of you to share some of your most personal trials with your online audience. Love & support from me to you!! ❤❤❤

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:21 pm

      Samantha, You came in and helped me during such a tough time and I am beyond grateful for all the love and support you have shown me! Thank you for being a great photographer and bonus: A GREAT FRIEND! Love you girl!

  6. August 25, 2016 / 8:17 pm

    Oh my goodness! Molly, I’m so sorry to read this! Just know your smile and personality is hugely inspirational to me and clearly to many other girls and Women out there. Personally, as someone battling severe Anxiety I find your words and brightness incredibly uplifting. Just know that you have a whole community of us behind you every step of the way on your blogging journey and we’re all cheering you on! You are one tough woman and your honesty and genuine writing is just wonderful!
    Keep going. You are fabulous!
    Ellie 🙂

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:25 pm

      Ellie — My heart is overwhelmed with joy to hear such sweet words coming from you! It isn’t easy to go through what I am going through especially with the anxiety I have, but my only hope is to stay positive, strong, and share my story in hopes that other beautiful women like you are encouraged too. We are in this together! Keep smiling my friend!

  7. Natasha
    August 25, 2016 / 8:45 pm

    Molly, I am so sorry to hear this!! You are so strong to continue being an inspiration to others even when going through your own trials! Such remarkable strength! You are truly one of a kind!! XO

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:25 pm

      Natasha, thank you for being your sweet, sweet self! You are such a kind soul and I am blessed by your encouragement! Thank you!

  8. Carleeh M.
    August 25, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    Molly, first (((hug))) my friend. I know life can really throw us some hards days, some harder than others, some full of loss and heart break. But God has your back, he never gives us more than we can handle, and he showers us with grace to make it through each day. I have learned that through years of martial problems and losing a parent. Just when we think we lost something, God shows us, he is all we truly need and everything else is for a season. I am so so proud of you for sharing your story with transparency with us. You never have to battle alone sister. And you should never be embarrassed to be who you are and building a new chapter.
    God knows how your journey with strengthen and create beauty from the ashes. He knew you would seek him and that you would go on quite the adventure and he would bless it. As much as I know your heart hurts, you have us. We care about you and want to see you flourish. You are a steong and determined women, we dont require perfection or performance. We just love you for who you are. Smiles and a good heart.

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:27 pm

      Carleeh, you have no idea how much your words mean to me, especially at a time like this. I completely agree that God never gives us more than we can handle and I continue to rely on him for my strength. Thank you for being there for me and encouraging me. Love you girl! ((Hugs))

  9. August 25, 2016 / 10:37 pm

    Molly, thank you for your transparency and sharing your heart in this way. You are such an inspiration! My first marriage had shades of what you described and it was truly awful. I’m so sorry you had to go through it but you are shining even brighter as a result. Keep smiling gorgeous! xoxo

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:28 pm

      Angie, thank you for letting me share my story. I am so sorry to hear that you have had a similar story, but I admire your strength. Thanks for encouraging me to keep shining! Means so much to me!

  10. August 26, 2016 / 5:46 am

    Proud of you! I have watched you rise to the occasion these last 6 months and become more strong and beautiful than ever. Xo

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:29 pm

      Thank you Victoria! I never knew how much growth a girl could experience in just 6 short months, but I’ve changed so much in very positive ways. I know God has a plan and continue to rely on that! Love you!

  11. August 26, 2016 / 8:36 am

    I’m so sorry to hear that! Thank you for sharing your story with us as I know it wasn’t an easy thing to do. I know that many women out there will be inspired by your story and your advice on how to get through it. <3

    • September 3, 2016 / 6:32 pm

      Thank you for standing behind me in support! You’re right it wasn’t an easy thing to share, but my goal is for women to believe they can get through anything!

  12. August 26, 2016 / 10:30 am

    I totally understand the feeling of something unexpected happening to you and then feeling embarrassed to tell anyone. I’m in no way saying that our life events equal one another but I felt similarly about being laid off back at the end of March. I think sometimes we might go to a place where we think, “What did we do?” regardless of the situation. Just know that you are beautiful, you still radiate happiness, and your life will end up the way you envision it, my dear. Sending love, Molly <3

    http://www.dressupchowdown.com

  13. Molly O'Connor
    August 26, 2016 / 2:15 pm

    You are so brave and I’m so so sorry this happened. I know you sharing your story will inspire and help so many others! You have such a great attitude, I know things will only get better for you! <3

    http://www.mollyonthemoveblog.com

  14. August 26, 2016 / 2:58 pm

    Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for what you have been going through! I cannot even imagine the pain you have been dealing with. It is really inspiring to read about your struggles with the divorce and with anxiety, and you put together some really great and helpful tips. I hope you are doing okay!

  15. August 26, 2016 / 3:53 pm

    Oh Molly, I just want to hug you right now. I couldn’t imagine that. My heart goes out to you for having to go through and fight through that pain and confusion. Thank you for being so transparent – anxiety and life’s confusions can be so troublesome. So proud of you for pursuing the Lord and your passions regardless of your pain and anxiety. Goodness, I wish I could hug you!! <3

  16. August 26, 2016 / 4:27 pm

    Great read! So sorry you’re going through a rough time lately. Luckily, on the bright side, with bad times come the good! I get writer’s block a lot too and always feel the pressure to be blogging daily (and as you might imagine the writer’s block really doesn’t help lol!). But you’re so right! At the end of the day we’ll be okay and always end up finding a way to pull through 😉 Thanks for the reminder! xoxo, sharon

    http://www.stylelullaby.com/beauty/my-make-up-routine-achieving-a-delicate-flawless-finish-with-luminess-air/

    • September 19, 2016 / 2:01 pm

      Thanks for sharing that encouragement, Sharon. You are SO right! With the bad times comes the good! Holding on to that truth today. Love you girl!

  17. Morgan Klein
    August 26, 2016 / 6:28 pm

    I am so sorry to read this! I admire you so much for sharing this with everyone. You are strong and will get through it ! You are such an inspiration! ❤️

  18. Michelle Golddust
    August 26, 2016 / 6:46 pm

    I’m so sorry that life has been so hard for the past 6 months. But trials are a part of life, and although we seem to go through our day’s believing that we are entitled to a smooth road, it often is not. I believe that these moments are when growth occurs and it really does make us stronger. It’s hard to appreciate it when you’re in the moment, but you will look back on these past six months as a time that you realized your strength. Because there is great strength inside of you. And you have an incredible support system and people who love you. There are so many wonderful happy times ahead of you. Don’t look back. Keep your eyes ahead so that you can see all the good things coming your way. Sending you so much love! Xx Michelle

  19. Elise Richard
    August 26, 2016 / 8:03 pm

    Wow babe. Thank you for sharing. You are just the sweetest and so inspiring. I am going through two major trials. One I shared recently on my page and am openly sharing about on social media and then another that I have not shared with many people yet. I plan on it soon because I so agree with you. It’s important to share your story. Its what we have to help others. I have just been so comsumed with my daughter’s recent battle against leukemia that everything has taken a back seat. I love you Molly. Thank you for pouring your soul out. You are so generous and kind, and you deserve endless happiness. You are so inspiring babe. Don’t ever stop being you!

    -Elise
    http://www.caturdaystyle.com

    • September 19, 2016 / 2:00 pm

      Wow, Elise! Thank you for being you and sharing your heart with me and loving me for all I am. I may not know the extent of what you are going through, but I can say you are SO strong! Keep being you and encouraging the word with your kind words! You shine like a star and are a true blessing to me! love you!

  20. Vyom
    August 26, 2016 / 8:45 pm

    All my love and a huge bear hug for you my darling!!! You are such a brave soul and I am sooooooo proud of you. Self motivation is the best form of motivation and i am so glad you have attained it. I am a firm believer in destiny. So in my opinion whatever happens in our life has a definite reason. God has something much better in store for us. All we need is a little assurance and lots of strength that everything is going to be OK!!!
    I wrote a blog on self-motivation some time ago. May be it will help you…And I know one day you will shine as bright as a star!!!
    http://panachemania.blogspot.com/2016/08/self-motivation.html

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:57 pm

      Thank you for the love and hugs! I am believing in God’s promises! I know he has something much better in store! Such a beautiful post on self-motivation. Just what I needed! Love you girl! Keep being you <3

  21. Raysa Garcia
    August 26, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    Dear Molly,
    You are beautiful, strong , amazing And over all a good human being.
    God gives his hardest battles to their strongest soldiers, and you are One of God strongest and bravest soldier. 💪🏼
    Remember this beautiful ☝🏼️
    ” After a storm comes a calm”
    – Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD cares for me.
    Psalms- 27:10
    I’m so proud of you beautiful. keep it up!
    I adore you and admire you even more.
    Much love to you! God bless you, always.

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:54 pm

      Raysa, continuously you blow me away with your kind words. Thank you for encouraging me, lifting me up, and sharing this verse with me. It has been one of the many to help me through! Bless your sweet heart!

  22. Carmen Jny (carmitive)
    August 27, 2016 / 12:31 am

    I love this outfit and I love the tips – such a perfect post!
    xx, Carmen – http://www.carmitive.com

  23. Robin Lee
    August 27, 2016 / 7:53 am

    Molly,
    Thank you for sharing such a difficult story to us all. It is true that we often face struggles that we need to in reality face. I am more than sure that many women out there facing similar situations are encouraged and uplifted with your optimistic words amd faith. I am sorry to hear such thing, but I also believe that good things fall apart so that better things can fall together. Continue to hold your head up high and keep smiling that beautiful smile, because as much as we are supporting you, you in turn always support us. Always remember Molly that the Lord gives his toughest battle to his toughest soldiers and you will prevail. Keeping you in my prayers and May the Lord continue to bless you! 💓
    – Robin
    RunwayTeacher.com

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:52 pm

      Robin, I am SO thankful to have insta-met you and I know for certain if we met in person we would hit it right off because you are such a kind soul! Thank you for your encouraging words. They lift me up and are just what I needed to hear! You are such a blessing to me! HUGS!

  24. ooofficeny
    August 27, 2016 / 12:10 pm

    You are are a true inspiration! I can’t imagine what you have been going through, but your ability to push through and encourage others to do the same is fantastic and you should definitely be proud. Thank you!

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:51 pm

      Wow! Thank you so much for the kind words! They are just what I needed to hear, especially during a time like this!

  25. Anna Monteiro
    August 27, 2016 / 4:06 pm

    I am so sorry you are going through this Molly. I’ll keep you in my prayers. You’re such a beautiful soul! You will be stronger than ever!
    XO,
    Anna
    http://www.blushingrosestyle.com

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:50 pm

      Thank you Anna! It’s definitely not an easy experience to go through, but you’re right, I’m stronger than ever because of it! Bless your heart!

  26. August 28, 2016 / 3:44 pm

    I’m so incredibly proud of you for getting raw and vulnerable with us. You’ve already grown so much in the past few months. So INCREDIBLY proud of you. LOVE YOU!

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:50 pm

      Chelsea, you are so right! I have grown a lot these past six months and your support and words of encouragement have helped me through! Thanks for being you! Love you!

  27. Christina
    August 28, 2016 / 8:36 pm

    Oh my gosh Molly- I teared up. This was beautifully written. You are such a brave, strong woman for sharing this with the world. You are such an inspiration.

    xo, Christina
    http://www.christinabeex3.com/

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:49 pm

      Thank you Christina! Those were exactly the words I needed to hear! You’re so kind!

  28. Bernice Abuan
    August 29, 2016 / 3:27 am

    This was such an inspirational post, and I am so sorry that you have had to endure all of this. You are a wonderful woman, and all of these problems you are enduring, and facing will only make you even greater! Stay strong, and know that you have an entire community of women here that will support you!

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:48 pm

      Bernice, I am so appreciate of your kind words about this post! It wasn’t easy to write, but having the support from a community of women like you is so special to me! I will keep smiling no matter what!

  29. amotherworld
    August 29, 2016 / 7:39 am

    I’m sorry this happened to you, it’s terrible and heartbreaking. It’s great to see that you are coming out of this stronger.

  30. Heather Gullett Denniston
    August 29, 2016 / 8:20 am

    What a gorgeous outfit. I love the shoes. I also love that you tackled a tricky subject. Very brave.

  31. Zana Djakovic
    August 31, 2016 / 12:31 am

    Oh dear Molly, I am sorry that you’ve been going through all that, but also thanks for sharing this. I am so proud that I am part of your journey because you inspire, beautiful lady. I am sure that still it isn’t easy sometimes, but you are stronger than yesterday. You got this. Sending you lots of love, brave woman! ❤

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:40 pm

      Zana – Thank you for the encouragement! I can only hope to keep smiling and hope my story encourages those who need it! Love you girl!

  32. August 31, 2016 / 2:42 pm

    Since the beginning I have always thought that you were inspiring, and now I believe that even more. You are so strong and beautiful inside and out. I am so sorry for what you have been through, but I believe you will come out on top. Keep smiling, as you always do!

    Much love to you!

    Kim Clifton
    http://www.mrscliftonscloset.com

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:40 pm

      Kim, Since the beginning I knew YOU were a sweet soul. Thank you for encouraging me and believing in me! You are so kind and I appreciate all of your support!

  33. September 2, 2016 / 6:03 am

    Thank you so much Molly for being brave enough to share this with us – I had tears in my eyes when I read it! I can’t believe what a horrible time you have been through but you have come though it stronger than ever and your tips to deal with trials are a great inspiration.
    I am so glad you are pursuing your goals and moving forwards.
    Julia xx
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:39 pm

      Hi Julia – thank you for realizing it wasn’t an easy thing for me to share and for encouraging me to keep moving forward! Your support means so much to me!

  34. Aiko Cunanan
    September 9, 2016 / 10:17 am

    Dear Molly,

    I’ve always thought you were inspirational since we’ve connected, but now I see how brave and strong you are as well- I admire you for your strength and courage to share your stories with others. Praying for God to sustain you each and everyday. I know your new chapter will help others in a deeper way. Thank you for being you, since day one.

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:38 pm

      Aiko, Thank you for reading and thank you for lifting me up with your kind words of encouragement! I knew you were a beautiful soul and your words mean so much to me! Thanks for being YOU! Keep smiling!

  35. Thomas Falkenstedt
    September 19, 2016 / 4:52 am

    Dear Molly, despite of already having thanked you for your comment I have to thank you once more for linking this post on my page. It is truly THE post I needed now. You’re such an amazing woman!

    Thank you once again sweetie, you totally made my day!
    xoxo
    Thomas

    http://thomasfalkenstedt.com

    • September 19, 2016 / 1:37 pm

      Hi Thomas, Thank you! I am SO happy I was able to offer even the slightest little bit of pick me up in your life right now. Remember, things WILL get better! Keep smiling!

  36. September 19, 2016 / 1:42 pm

    Thank you Paula! That is the plan, to continue to lean on God even more as HE is my greatest source of strength! Thanks for the love and prayers!

  37. Bekah
    October 28, 2016 / 1:19 pm

    I love how transparent and vulnerable this post is, thank you for sharing! I am so sorry that happened to you and can not imagine the heartbreak, I have several friends who have gone through devastation in their marriages and it breaks my heart every time. I also struggle with anxiety and I know it can be a heavy burden! I am always really encouraged when I find women who want to share not only the good but bad times with authenticity and transparency, because it helps me feel so much less alone! God bless and keep being your brave and fearless self! 🙂

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