I absolutely love summer and all that it brings — warm weather, shorts, cute dresses, and darling swimsuits. Unfortunately, as much as my love for the season continues, my hate for those unfortunate bikini body insecurities are here too. You know, those thousands of questions that loom around in your head and make you feel there is more you should be doing to get your body into shape. Call it the summer beach bod dilemma, but it seems that summer brings out the worst of the body insecurities. With a heightened sense of body awareness, it is easy to fall into the trap of body insecurity. I’ve been guilty of this lately. Today I’m here to remind you that beauty comes from the inside out, regardless of your body shape. Read on for some important tips to keep that confidence about your body all year long.
I know this post isn’t me in a bikini, but in all honesty, the photos still make me feel vulnerable. Maybe it’s the tight bodycon fit, but I find it revealing about the body in very similar ways. I’m going to be completely open here and tell you I’ve had these pictures for weeks. I’ve been skeptical to share them, mostly because of my own lack of confidence about them. As I looked at these photos the first time I began feeling insecure about showing them.
I’m embarrassed to say but I’m sharing with you to remind you that we all have them. I felt like my skin didn’t look smooth enough, my arms looked big, my skin tone discolored, my hips too wide, my butt not perky enough, my stomach not flat enough, and my boobs too small. I started deleting the ones that I felt like I didn’t look my best in and realized I was deleting nearly all of them. It was more than apparent that my own insecurities about my body were speaking louder. Because I’ve been battling with body image lately and we all need to hear it, I want to share more than just some reminders on how to banish the bikini body insecurities this summer. We should feel confident all the time no matter what we wear or how we look!
Never compare yourself to others.
I can’t stress enough how important this reminder is and I know I’m so guilty of this. This is a hard one to do especially when our minds are programmed to discretely be aware of perfection and flaws. With a world profoundly driven by media there will always be an opportunity for you to compare. Yes, I understand that so many women out there look like Victoria Secret models, but what’s more important than outward beauty is the heart of a person. Comparison won’t get you anywhere positive. The truth is that everyone is beautiful, especially when they let their true beauty on the inside shine.
Change the way you see yourself.
Difficult to do as we are often our own worst critics, but if we are able to emotionally displace the negativity we feel about ourselves we can view our bodies in a whole different light. What I always remind myself of is the fact that so many women can feel the same way I do – fear, rejection, comparison, etc.. When others look at me I may be feeling judgment, but perhaps they are looking at me for different reasons. Change begins with the way we see ourselves, including awareness of the negativity that comes our way. Remember, you’re beautiful from the inside-out. Your smile and your confidence should outweigh all those insecurities.
Don’t speak negativity out loud.
Words are powerful. Avoid the self-deprecating talk completely and only speak positive things – especially out loud. What we say affects how we feel and negative speaking will only contribute to a negative mindset. Instead, replace those words with honesty and how you want to feel about yourself. Give yourself a little pep talk and remind yourself how beautiful you truly are!
Be confident in who you are.
I know the “self-love” thing seems a little awkward at times, but fully embracing this concept means no self-rejection. Confidence is critical to overcoming insecurities about the way we look. Sometimes it can simply be finding the right clothes that make you confident. Avoiding what’s popular and putting on what makes you feel good about yourself is perfectly acceptable and in fact encouraged! Remember, the most beautiful thing a woman can wear is a smile. People will be drawn to a woman’s smile, confidence, and heart more than anything she puts on or any way her body looks. That’s true beauty.
I hope this post inspired you to embrace who you are and be confident in your own skin. You are truly beautiful!